BOTTLING IN, IS THE GRADUAL DEATH OF RELATIONSHIPS
You see, this SÒRÒSÓKÉ slang that was birth a few months ago could not have been more apt and profound for such a time as this…..
As a child, our parents silenced us when we try to have an opinion, we were bullied into submission and suppression, slowly, we became human beings who were afraid to speak their minds, even outside of our homes, we became timid adults, disguising under the tree o “I’m a quiet person, “I don’t like talking too much”, “There’s no need to say what’s on my mind, “it doesn’t matter”, “Nevermind” etc, the core of who we are slowly faded out with silence, and when society, people, relationships place a demand on us, we will rather faint, die or play deaf & dumb, than to respond. And so we carry all of this into adulthood, into relationships. Sounds familiar?
Yups! Our relationships sometimes are a reflection of the child we once were, no miracle happens in between, except where conscious & deliberate actions are applied, if not, the adult we are now, was once the child we were raised to be……Shikena!
Fights are the most unpleasant part of social interactions, as two independent individuals with unique personalities & different upbringing, inevitably, you WILL not agree with your partner on everything, Arguments and disagreements are natural and healthy even, as long as it helps you sort out your issues.
Fights can actually make your relationship stronger as they help you understand your partner’s perspective. What matters is your approach to the argument and how you resolve it. But you must communicate.
Communication can involve: Sending an email if you don’t feel comfortable being confrontational, Send a text, have a face-to-face (even if it will take you 50yrs to get the word out), whatever you do, just communicate.
Your spouse is not your parent and bottling things in will kill you & your relationship
I need a bottle of chilled malt pls…