ASKING TO BE TOUCHED IS NOT A SIN
Sex should be fun, but it can also be complicated.
A lot of people get really intimidated about the idea of giving feedback during & after sex, especially since you rarely see this kind of communication in a sex scene on TV or in movies, there’s this stereotype that we’re supposed to be able to have amazing sex without any communication necessary, but feedback is an absolutely crucial component of great sex.
If it hurts, feels good, almost there, never there, Lai Lai it has not reach me, Ogà Continue….”C Ronaldo & Merci no do pass you” tell him/her, it’s just as simple as opening your mouth.
Look, if you can have sex, then you can discuss sex…Communicate! What are you shy about or afraid of?
This is what I was referring to in my previous post, you also need to have explored your body in order to be able to guide your spouse on what to do.
Do you know the popular Gräfenberg area or Gräfenberg spot, aka the G-spot, this is an erogenous zone inside of the vagina of women. Be there saying Dr. May has broken the table… let’s scatter it now o…
Remember, feedback is a gift…Think of it this way, every time you tell your spouse how they should touch you & what you want in bed, you’re actually giving them a gift. A gift that is functional and beneficial for both of you.
Be kind and compassionate especially when you’re telling them “e no choke”.
Don’t be callous….tell them in Love and with the aim to get better…
Be reminded, it’s feedback, not instruction.
Sex should be enjoyed, NOT endured. Making love is different from having sex(topic for another day).
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