DEALING WITH DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
Domestic violence in relationships is extremely serious and dangerous but is very often overlooked, excused, or denied. In this case, you are both victims and perpetrators which makes the case worse than some others. Your relationship is in no way, shape, or form healthy or ideal, you may never have been violent in your previous relationship so this is definitely someone who is very toxic, has a negative influence and you shouldn’t be around.
Conflicts always arise in relationships and as adults, you should know how to express and communicate your displeasure without getting aggressive with each other. You can’t always agree on everything but that’s where your ability to properly communicate and compromise comes in. Violence is never the answer. If you feel you are being provoked or the argument is getting too heated, the right thing to do at that moment is to walk away and calm yourself down.
The best thing to do for now is to remove yourself completely from the situation and then get professional help. This is so that you can work on your violent tendencies and also heal from being a victim of domestic violence. Not doing anything about it could result in things getting fatal and we wouldn’t want that to happen. Also, encourage your partner to get help.
It is best when the dangers are recognized on time and when the relationship is still new, so much hasn’t been invested in it. Seeking the proper help will also be of benefit to your future relationships by teaching you how to tackle inevitable conflicts without it resulting in violence and to make sure that you are in a proper mental state to pursue a relationship. Please always treat matters like this with urgency and get help immediately