HOW TO INITIATE A DTR CONVERSATION
So how do you kick the conversation off? You can start by thinking it over in advance rather than simply leaping into it. Since it could significantly impact your relationship, it’s worth thinking about what you want to say before you start saying it.
If you’re nervous about the conversation, set a time and day to talk with your partner so you have time to prepare and gather your thoughts. However, you should never be nervous to bring up topics that are important to you when defining the relationship.
How your partner responds to a DTR convo can be a big tell as to whether you two have a future together.
If they do not want to define the relationship, that could be a red flag. Don’t be uncomfortable asking for what you want out of your relationship, and make any needs you may have known from the beginning.
When you finally initiate the DTR conversation itself, it’s important not to freak the other person out by making it seem like a bigger deal than it is.
Never use the phrase, ‘We need to talk,’ which is freighted with heavy-duty emotions. It’s better to say, ‘Hey, can I share something with you?’ and take it from there.
Then, once they’ve agreed to hear you out, you say something like, “I know this is never easy to talk about, but I’m looking for a partner and I’d like to be monogamous with you and stop seeing other people if you’re down.”
Anyone who wants the same thing is going to be happy to move forward.