SHUT THE DOOR

It is safe to say “Shut the door!” – against bad vibes, negative voices, unhealthy relationships. Learn how to shut the door on people you don’t want in your life. Sometimes this is hard to do, especially if that person is a sibling, parent, boss, long-term friend or co-worker. However, you can learn to shut the door on them mentally by not letting them get into your head. You can create boundaries. This is possible!

You actually have this kind of control — the control to not let people leave you with their negative residue. You know the kind, the kind of people that love drama. When you’re surrounded by people that don’t know how to demonstrate positivity or productivity, taking control can be an active and intentional process. Once they dispense a negative comment you can refute it in your head by exchanging it for a positive one.

If you really think about it, there are a lot of opportunities you have to avoid letting these people get into your head, and sometimes even into your life. Avoidance can come in the form of not answering your text or phone, or you can sit by a different group of people at work during lunch or, learn not to engage in conversation with them. Eventually, these people will get the hint and you will create a different relationship with them, one that benefits you.

You deserve to create a space for yourself that feels safe and supportive. You deserve to exist under terms that don’t harm you; terms that allow your best self to come through. Even if other people don’t understand; even if it makes them feel angry or rejected or sad, your boundaries are necessary and they matter.

Their needs matter too, and it is not wrong to want to make shifts to accommodate both — but the truth is that you can’t take care of anyone else if your own needs aren’t being met. You don’t have to explain your boundaries. You don’t have to justify them, and you don’t need anyone’s approval. You need to believe that you’re someone worth taking care of, and you need to trust that if anyone is entitled to your protection and care, it’s you.”

Are you holding on to anything that needs to be let go? Resentment, frustration, anger, shame, guilt, a past love? Know that the longer you hold onto it, the longer that feeling will stay with you. It is hurting nobody but yourself. You let the door open before, don’t make the same mistake again. Move on and make sure the door remains locked.

7 things negative people will do to you. They will…
1. Demean your value, so guard it.
2. Destroy your image, so protect it.
3. Drive you crazily, so stay calm.
4. Dispose of your dreams, so keep them intact.
5. Discredit your imagination, so give it some credit.
6. De-frame your abilities, so embrace them.
7. Disbelieve your opinions, so believe in them.

There are many ways but one way to avoid negativities and that is to keep them far from you. Stay away from negative people! Shut the door on them! Don’t be apologetic about it. It is your life, so guard it.

“Do the best you can until you know better. Then, when you know better, do better.” Maya Angelou

“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls” – Joseph Campbell