Normalize Saying No
Let me quickly ask a question, when was the last time you said ‘no’ to a request? Here is the deal, we might think we can not say ‘no’ and it might really feel uncomfortable to say ‘no’, the truth is almost always that we can say ‘no’ and the world will not crumble at our feet when we do so.
Learn not to accept everything that comes by. If it is against your belief, say NO. Pursuit for greatness means you should have a stand, do not be found in a place of Compromise. It is important to be able to say no so you feel empowered while still maintaining your relationships with others. Saying no helps you establish healthy boundaries and enables others to have clarity about what they can expect from you.
The idea that you can not say NO is a stubborn thought pattern (although often with good intentions) that we must work to unravel. Here are some ways to do that:
- Check intently why you have to say yes, is it just to please the other person? Pinpoint your thought process in order to examine it.
- Once you have determined why you think you can not say ‘no’, evaluate the validity of that statement.
- Create a new statement to replace the old one. Make smart choices so you can invest your time and energy.
Finally, think about what is really important to you and where you want to invest yourself. Life is short, and you do not want to look back and wish that you had said ‘yes’ to things you could not because you did not say ‘no’ to others. Values and priorities can guide us in learning how to say NO which can open up opportunities for us to say ‘yes’ to the things that really matter. In this way, we see that saying ‘no’ can be a thing of beauty.