20 YEARS OF LEARNING SERIES
So back to my breakfast gist (i can see all of you dragging your chair forward and reheating your popcorns don’t worry, this is why we buy data )
About 5 different people have sent me a Dm per my last post saying, “You people were able to reach an agreement because it seemed like you compromised “, or what if my partner and i can’t reach a compromise on similar issues etc and the first question that comes to mind is, “What kind of partner did you marry? A fadèyi olòrò’s decendants or a member of the “Isakaba brotherhood??? because listen, the quality of the partner that you choose determines how your life in that marriage will be.
For me, i knew i married a Kind & an INTELLIGENT man, who takes on board a superior argument when presented (As per, he’s lawyer ) and he’s a man who also wants the best for his Team mate. Having that conversation wasn’t the easiest, but the end goal was more important. #TeamMates
Fellow Nigerians/Africans, it is not enough for you to say that you discuss some of your expectations (that has turned into frustration with your partner), there is “THE HOW” to discuss them”, don’t break your partners spirit because you’re trying to make a point or win in a conversation, you need to keep their HONOR & IDENTITY intact, you need to make sure to separate how what they aren’t performing, away from who they are and how you see them.
A lot of you have broken, bruised, trampled on your partner’s because they couldn’t meet your “Ever-changing-expectations-that-only-God-can-meet #DeepSighs
Am I saying don’t have expectations? Absolutely not, what I am infact saying is that,
SPEAK INTO YOUR SPOUSE WHO THEY ARE, NOT WHAT THEY AREN’T DOING.