20 YEARS OF LEARNING SERIES
5, Defensiveness is the fastest way to fall out in an arguement, very unconstructive i.e (Blame shifting “I wouldn’t have done that if you weren’t…..or you made me do that) Sounds familiar? Na dem o 😱🙄 “Liquid metal”
6, Speaking with your partner in Contempt i.e (Putting down your partner and making them feel inferior) becuz you think that when you stomp on them and try to reduce their worth like that, it makes you feel exalted 🙄🤥 Let me just be the first to release your diagnostic, “The colour of your problem is Violet & indigo 🙄🤥 and we need to go and fetch some water from 3rd mainland to wash your head” 🤔 Pls refrain from doing this biko.
7, This is the one i can’t stand ever “Stonewalling”, this kind of behaviour is borderline witchcraft, bcuz, how can you just withdraw yourself from a conversation midway, like “shutdown” o, “bcuz it is not going your way, and then ignore your partner and just generally refuse to engage 🤷🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️……but you must kill them with silent treatment…..Abeg Nnanyi & Nne, pls pick up your wings and fly at night, becuz you’re the leader of the “Witchcraft confederation” 🙄🤥
See ehn, If things get a little heated, take a breather. Remove yourself from the situation and come back once emotions have cooled off a bit and let your partner know that you need a few minutes/hours to reset. With a clearer head and a more conciliatory tone, na so matters dey take resolve o.
Let the one who have ears ear o, and if you no get, borrow from your neighbour and if that one dey use hin own, go buy from Jumia or konga o 😱🤔🤷🏽♀️Lol
Have a goodbye o! 🤣🤣😭