20 YEARS OF LEARNING SERIES
I have seen many women especially, drown themselves in deep sorrows several years into their marriage echoing that “They don’t recognize who they’ve become, and they are not of “Sufficient value outside of the shadow of their spouse”. In other words, they have successfully abandoned themselves like one of those broken down/ abandoned trailer that you drive by on Benin-Òre express way. 🙆🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️🤷🏽♀️😭 Wait a second, does this sound like you?
See ehn, a healthy and happy relationship requires two healthy individuals. Keyword being “INDIVIDUALS”. Which means, two people with their own identities, their own interests and perspectives.
Why would you give that up? The plot twist is that, if we were to ask your partner why you seem to have abandoned yourself, they will say “I didn’t ask her or Him to do that o” 🤥🤔 You just maybe assumed that position in the relationship.
Jessica & Femi, Don’t ever give up who you are for the person you’re with. It will only backfire and make you both miserable.
Have the courage to be who you are, and most importantly, let your partner be who they are.
Chase your own dreams, be all that God has called you to be, schedule some me-time spa sessions, take a solo trip, explore what makes you tick, and most of all, be willing to discuss this openly with your partner.
All these “I gave up this for him, i didn’t pursue that opportunity becuz of her” is absolutely ridiculous and nobody send you message. 😳🤫🤷♀️🤦♀️
Both partners can have a separate thriving career and an individualised dream life, if they both put in the work.
I am a classic example of this, My Iroko has risen to the top of his career as a SAN and you know me, make we no dey do like say we wan brag 🤣🤣😁 You get the point.
Be fearless in the pursuit of what makes your life whole. You hear???