20 YEARS OF LEARNING SERIES
Oh! I had to learn this the hard way o 🙆🏾♀️😭, earlier on in our marriage, I remember how I might have misread a situation that happened btwn Oga & I, the thing pain me sò te, I might have called my bestfriend at the time, my sister and before I could say jack, news “haff borrowed canvas to reach my mum’s ears” 🙆🏾♀️ ah! It was wild! 🙈🤦🏽♀️
With my mum trying to defend and stand up for my right unsolicitedly and unprovoked, plus my sister exhausting all the english words in the dictionary, dem do pass wetin I send dem o (I no even send dem message o, i was just ranting ) 🙆🏾♀️ na me come dey beg, and you know what made it worse? I found out half way through the whole shenanigans that I misread the situation 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️ so when I started screaming “Mayday! Mayday! Over! Abort the mission, Mayday! Mayday! Na only GO dem hear, button don spoil for ON! 🤣🤣😭 I felt embarrassed and in that very moment, I learnt one of the biggest lessons of my life. 🤷🏽♀️ #DeepSighs
Beyond not involving my family or friends, I learnt to take whatever problems I had with my partner to my partner, bcuz na him offend me and na only him fit un-offend me 🤣😭 It was pointless to talk to other people about a problem only one person could solve or atleast provide clarity, and I didn’t tell him 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ Do you see how funny that is?
Whilst in that incident I was wrong, there were other days that I wasn’t, but we figured it out eventually together, and made adjustements where necessary. Becuz the thing with scenerios like this is that, Na you dey “in love”, he can say and do the right things and in one sec, you’re in cloud 9 again, but your family, friends, colleagues, parents etc are not “In-Love” with him/her 😭🤣 Their eye clear well well, and for every outgoing “Gbas, there is an incoming Gbos” 🤣😭😭 and before you know it, there’s a street fight in mushin becuz of you 🤣, You get it now? Lol
Again, I recognize that sometimes you will want to talk to somebody to gain clarity on a matter, I recommend that you speak to a professional, your friends & family are no experts. Except you just want to raise a band wagon of pity parties and just wail upandan- dat one seff dey 🤷🏽♀️🤔
But, I know marriages that, something their daughter or son told them at some point in their marriage about their partner is the reason why their parents don’t connect or like them, whilst the owner of the problem have moved on, they cannot seem to do the same 🤦🏽♀️. They are still stuck on the protest ground “Protesting & carrying subtle placards ” ear & dear 😭😭😭🤣 Funny story is, they even mean well o, it’s just that, they might have taken it a little too far.
Please protect your partner from these externalities o, e get why!