20 YEARS OF LEARNING SERIES
In my recent previous post, I had addressed one of the dynamics of the relationship between a MIL & DIL, and my Dm became fuller than the waste Lawma refused to come and carry on my street 🤣🤣 I was shooketh! It shooketh me by surprise 🤣Lol
The truth must be told, weather it sits well with us or not, it’s the truth.
By the way, Mummy wà 🤥🙄, what are you doing in your DIL’s house everyday? Why are you putting your mouth in matters that doesn’t concern you and trying to shove your opinions down their throat? Are you bored or lonely? 🤔🤥
If you cannot allow your son build and grow his own family the way he deems fit, and the way you have taught him to do over the years, why allow him marry? If you don’t think that you’ve finished raising your son, pls don’t allow him get married.
It’s that simple.
When I see parents trying to raise their adult children, it just mostly signal that they know they did a bad job raising that child and they are constantly trying to auto-correct at every chance, becuz once you instill the right foundation and value system inside your child, you have nothing to fear (You cannot raise children in fear), you just need to give room for that seed to grow, not constantly interfering with the process and outcome. YOU CANNOT RAISE AN ADULT.
Listen, it doesn’t matter if you didn’t get the kind of grace you would have wanted from your inlaws and you think it is ok to extend and pass on that same dysfunction to another persons child, pls don’t do this. Be the kind of mother in law you wished your mother in law was to you. Leave these adult alone, let them make their own mistakes and learn quickly from it.
When they ask your opinion, pls share kindly, when they need you to baby sit, pls do just that 🤥 Don’t move in 😡 except they explicitly ask you too, and when you do, pls resist the urge to override and try to control their lives. Marriage is hard enough as it is.
I have seen some mother in laws who still wants to wear the same outfit with their son every sunday 🙄🤥🤥🤔 I also heard of the one who likes to compete with her DIL, she has sworn to always outmatch her, everything she does, she must do X2 🙆🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️ Like, mummy wa, is the queen of the coast your cousin ni? 🙄🤥😅
Oh! I have also seen the ones who tried to turn the children of their DIL against them, ‘everytime they visit grandma, the children act different for atleast a month 🤦🏽♀️urgh! Deep sighs! This is just unacceptable.
Can we all just get along and act like real human beings for once? Gbògbò eleyi o neccestri naw
Treat your DIL like you will treat your son, spend time with her, be polite and respect her, get to really know her, prioritize her opinions, seek her permission before you try to introduce anything into her home, know your place and don’t blur the boundary lines……so that your son may live a long, healthy and happy life.
It’s ok for this post to trigger you, but do the right thing. Like I said in my previous posts, not all MIL’s are vile & evil, but today, let’s address those ones wey do pass “Patience Ozokwu character roles” 😁✌
I’m not sure I came in peace today sha 🤣🤣🤥