LEARN TO SHUT THE DOOR
It is safe to say “Shut the door!” to bad vibes, negative voices, and unhealthy relationships. Learn how to say no to people you don’t want in your life. It can be difficult to do this at times, especially if the person is a sibling, parent, boss, long-term friend, or coworker. You can, however, learn to mentally close the door on them by not allowing them into your head. You can set limits. This is feasible!
You do have this kind of control — the ability to prevent people from leaving you with negative residue. You know the type, the people who enjoy drama. When you’re surrounded by people who don’t know how to be positive or productive, taking control can be a deliberate and active process. When they make a negative comment, you can counter it with a positive one in your head.
If you think about it, there are numerous ways to avoid allowing these people into your head, and sometimes even into your life. Avoidance can take the form of not responding to texts or phone calls, sitting next to a different group of people at work during lunch, or learning not to engage in conversation with them. These people will eventually get the hint, and you will develop a different relationship with them, one that benefits you.
You deserve to create a safe and supportive environment for yourself. You deserve to exist under conditions that do not harm you; conditions that allow your best self to shine. Even if others don’t understand; even if it makes them angry, rejected, or sad, your boundaries are important and must be respected.
Their needs are important, and it is understandable to want to make adjustments to accommodate both — but the truth is that you can’t take care of anyone else if your own needs aren’t met. You are not required to explain your boundaries. You are not required to justify them, and you do not require anyone’s approval. You must believe that you are someone worthy of protection and care, and you must trust that if anyone is entitled to your protection and care, it is you. ”
Is there anything in your life that you need to let go of? Resentment, frustration, anger, shame, guilt, or a previous love? Know that the longer you hold on to it, the longer you will feel it. Nobody is harmed except you. Don’t make the same mistake again by leaving the door open. Continue on while keeping the door locked.
Negative people will do the following to you. They are going to…
1. Devalue your worth, so protect it.
2. Destroy your image, so safeguard it.
3. You will be driven insanely, so remain calm.
4. Dispose of your dreams so that they remain intact.
5. Don’t dismiss your imagination; instead, give it some credit.
6. Reframe your abilities so that you can embrace them.
7. Don’t believe your own opinions, but do believe in them.
There are many ways to avoid negativity, but one is to keep it away from you. Keep negative people at bay! Close the door on them! Don’t be sorry about it. It is your life, so protect it.
“Do your best until you know better.” Do better when you know better.” Angelou, Maya
“Follow your bliss, and the universe will open doors where there were previously only walls,” says Joseph Campbell.